What Happens When You Are On The Path Of Attraction.

I recently unearthed an email from Thomas Leonard, one of the founders of coaching, about the realities of becoming irresistibly attractive. The first thing to understand is that while there is work to do in becoming attractive, it is a way of being, not doing. In other words, you’ll just show up being a very attractive person and won’t have to work at being attractive. It isn’t something you can force or fake. You’ll know you’ve arrived when you start having a notion of what you want and then attract it effortlessly. The more attractive you become, the more quickly and easily you’ll attract new people and better opportunities in life. If you strive, struggle, push, press, persuade, manipulate, sell or seduce you aren’t being attractive. That being said, Thomas felt “marketing shamelessly” was attractive. The key is to not only be attractive, but also get exposure. You need to make it easy for people to find you whether you are looking for the ideal relationship, the ideal career or the ideal home. Here are some realities along the path of becoming irresistibly attractive:

This isn’t a quick fix. It may take 6-12 months or more to switch from being in a chasing mode to an attracting mode. Stick with it. You’ll start to notice changes immediately though.
You’ll get pleasure and joy from adding value to others rather than scoring big or winning. It is a quieter approach to life so you may miss the drama of the highs and lows initially. Although I personally find attracting things very exciting!
Being irresistibly attractive is not a system or a technique, it is a way of life that you’ll grow into.
When you find your old ways of reaching a goal distasteful even when they may have worked extremely well for you – such as striving, chasing, selling, persuading, manipulating, etc. – you are on the way!
The people you spend time with may change. Not everyone may be willing to respect and honor your new boundaries and standards. That is okay. You can just gently let the relationship go as you grow in different directions. You may attract fewer people to you, but they’ll be great people!
Goals you may have held dear may lose their appeal. As you simplify your life and orient around your core values, you’ll find that many goals no longer apply. Initially you may feel a sense of loss as you let these old goals and wants go. You’ll be running on less adrenaline so life may not feel as exciting or rushed. You may even need to experience some boredom before you find real peace. Be willing to go through it all until the attraction kicks in.
Alternatively, you may keep the same goals, but approach them in a very different manner. You’ll strive less, enjoy the process more. Your goals may become much much bigger but you’ll find achieving them easier, more effortless, and fun. When you start attracting the really big stuff, it does feel like magic! Or a divine blessing!
You’ll go back and forth between your old way and the new way. This is normal so don’t worry about it. Better to ease into being attractive than to strive, struggle or try to acquire it (you’ve missed the point if you aren’t enjoying the process!)
Your relationship to money will shift. You’ll be much more responsible about money. It isn’t about hoping to attract money, it is about earning money in very efficient ways. If you are struggling with money issues, you’ve skipped something. Go back to the basics and work on the book, How to Get out of Debt, Stay out of Debt and Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis. Simplify your life some more. And, get your emotional and personal needs met so they don’t drive you to spend or self-medicate with money. (The Secret Laws of Attraction by Talane Miedaner).
Take your cues from the present and go with the flow instead of setting future goals. You’ll be fully present and find all the opportunities you need right in front of you!
Warmest,
Talane

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