Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! 

I remember thinking that 2010 sounded so futuristic and imagined we'd all be running about in space suits and beaming ourselves up to wherever we wanted to go. We haven't advanced that much in the last ten years, but we have achieved something remarkable--we can communicate instantaneously for free to people all over the world via the internet. Now that is something. And it has been changing the nature of business and increasing the rate of change as ideas circulate quickly. It has never been easier to share your ideas. If you've got a story to share or wisdom to impart, set up a blog and get going.

If you haven't had a chance to do your list of accomplishments for 2009, I'd strongly recommend you do that before you go sailing off into the new year with your new goals in hand. Take a few moments to take stock of what you've already accomplished and what you are grateful for in your life. Then make that wish list for 2010. This is such an important exercise that I urge you to do this tonight if you haven't done it already. Every year I am amazed at how much of my wish list I actually get.  This time last year my husband and I had our house on the market because we didn't think we'd weather the recession--we are both coaches and a luxury item on most ledgers. Now we've taken the house off the market because we came up with the ingenious solution of selling part of the land instead. So there you go. We were sitting on a small gold mine of sorts and didn't even realize it until the recession forced us to think more creatively. And because so many people can't afford private coaching, I've come up with a plan to offer online coaching at a very affordable price (coming this January!)

As for New Year's resolutions-- forget about "lose weight and get in shape" and instead pick a goal that really excites you. Life is way to short to do something that doesn't thrill you.

Warmest,
Talane

P.S. This month I will be releasing a brand new online life coaching program based on my book, Coach  Yourself to Success, to help you reach your goals effortlessly (and very affordably!) Stay tuned!

P.P.S. Important notice! In the last year the lifecoach name was used to send out spam. I apologize profusely if you were the victim of these horrible attacks. This year, in an effort to prevent spam, we are upgrading to a protected emailing list account that requires that you opt-in to receive emails. In the next day or two you will receive a separate email from me with the subject line: Please confirm your subscription to Talane's Tips and Newsletters. In that email will be a link you can click to continue your subscription. I apologize for this inconvenience, but it seems to be the only way to protect from spam. Thanks for your cooperation! Talane

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 If our emotional needs are unmet, we repel what we most desire. When we've fulfilled our deepest needs--such as the need to be cherished, the need to be heard, and the need for harmony--we are naturally more attractive to our current or potential mate.

"Like Attracts Like"
When we are fully living our core values, we effortlessly attract others who share our values.

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Tip of the Week : Clear the Clutter

Talane’s Coaching Tip for the Week, December 8, 2009
Clear the Clutter

Many thanks to all of you who so kindly completed the Life Coaching Survey! It has been very helpful and I was amazed to discover that many of you have been following my tips for years! I'm deeply flattered and will no longer use my “Classic Tips” to tide over my summer holidays.

Then I had a big laugh when I discovered that clearing clutter was one of the most popular areas of interest–"like" truly does "attract like". I'm a died-in-the-wool packrat and tend to keep things rather than toss them with the result that I must constantly edit my own life. In fact, before I could write this tip with any sort of integrity, I spent a good hour tidying up my office! And that, in fact, is a useful tip. People who have tidy spaces do spend time tidying them. I always seem to find something more exciting or interesting to do!

If I could shed any light on the subject it would be this: our brains really are hard-wired to be one way or the other–either a packrat with the natural tendency to save stuff or a minimalist with the natural tendency to discard stuff. (We can even test for this on a computerized assessment!) If you are struggling with clutter it is because you are wired that way. It is unlikely that you'll every find it easy to get rid of stuff. Consequently, the fastest and easiest way to get rid of the clutter is to find someone who is naturally wired to discard stuff to come over to your home and/or office and help you. Your natural tendency will be to shift things around, not toss. Ask a tidy/organized friend to come over and help you eliminate the excess. Most people who are tidy love to clear out messes and can do it in a fraction of the time that you can. So why not let them have a go? If you don't have any friends or neighbors of this stripe, then you can hire a professional organizer. Or even hire a neighborhood kid to come over and help you out. The worst strategy is to do it alone as you are likely to get bogged down quickly.

That being said, if you want to give it a go yourself, start with one small pocket of clutter. Decide to clear out one dresser drawer or the kitchen junk drawer. Don't go crazy and tear through the whole house or you may end up completely overwhelmed. This week just pick one small area to declutter and enjoy the process!

Warmest,

Talane

P.S. Clearing clutter is a great way to make room for the new and what a great time to do this at year end! Stay tuned for more tips next week!


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Top Ten for a Terrific Holiday Season

Top Ten for a Terrific Holiday Season

December 2009

1. Use the Joy Filter for decision-making.

If someone invites you to something ask yourself, "Will this add joy to my life?" If not, decline. You don’t have to go to every single holiday party you are invited to. Stop sending holiday cards unless you love to do it. It is a pleasure to receive a personal card, but why bother sending a rubber-stamped, printed signature card? Just pick ten people who are special to you and send them a hand-written card. Do only what you find joyful and you are guaranteed a terrific holiday season!
2. Forgive and make amends.

If someone has done something that hurt you, now is the time to call and forgive them. If you have done anything hurtful or damaging to another, make amends even if it wasn’t intentional. Call or write the people you may have offended, apologize and ask them how you can make it up to them. If you wore your friend’s favorite sweater and then spilled catsup on it, it isn’t enough to say "I’m terribly sorry." Buy a new sweater and apologize! You will feel much happier immediately!
3. Get the whole family involved.

Have your kids address the Christmas or Chanukah cards. Have everyone coming to dinner bring a dish. Let the kids make the ornaments and bake the cookies. The holiday preparations can be a burden if you are doing everything by yourself, but lots of fun when everyone pitches in.
4. Take time for yourself every day.

Many people get depressed during the holidays. This year just make sure that every single day you have something to look forward to. It doesn’t have to be something big and expensive. It can be a hot bath, a new magazine or a phone call to a friend. Most people get so busy in the holidays that they forget to enjoy themselves. If you always go to the gym and work out, don’t quit just because it is the holidays.
5. Keep your perspective.

Go with flow. Everything isn’t going to go according to plan so don’t get your hair in a net if cousin Jean doesn’t like her gift or Uncle Carl didn’t remember to send you a Christmas card. Remember the bottom line is to have fun. If the turkey is burnt to a crisp, order a pizza. Forget having a Martha Stewart Christmas. She puts each strand of tinsel on one at a time. It is okay if you just toss it on in globs.
6. Hire it out.

This is usually the busiest time of the year and most people find themselves doing more entertaining than any other time. Why not hire a housekeeper every week during the month of December so that you will feel free to relax and enjoy your friends and family instead of worrying whether the dust bunnies are escaping. If you don’t like wrapping presents have somebody else do it. Hate to cook? Order a ham or turkey cooked by your favorite grocery or restaurant.
7. Simplify your gift giving.

Use a gift registry service (available at Sears) so that your friends and family don’t waste any more time or money buying things you don’t really want or need. As my grandma says, " I’m all for people telling me what they want so it is easy." Or pick out a great gift for all the men and another for all the women and give everyone the same thing this year.
8. Examine your holiday traditions.

Ask everyone in your family what are the three most important things that really make the holiday special. Then focus on those things. You may discover that nobody really wants all those holiday cookies, but really love the tree decorating party. Do what makes the holiday special and forget the rest of the stuff. One really memorable activity or event is what really makes a holiday. You don’t have to do it all.
9. Be an angel.

Go out of your way once this holiday season to do a good deed for someone else. Bring cookies to the retirement home in your community, slip a dollar into the Salvation Army bucket, bring leftover turkey dinner to the guy who works at the all night gas station. Do some small thing to help another or brighten someone’s day that you wouldn’t normally do.
10. Set up an automatic holiday savings account.

It may be too late for this year, but you can get a jump on next year by setting up an automatic savings plan at your bank. They will debit your account and put a fixed dollar amount in your savings account every month. This way you will have a ready stash of cash for the holidays next year!


To all my readers,

For the first time in twelve years, I've created a Life Coaching Survey. I would be very grateful if you took a few minutes to complete this survey online. I'm very interested in hearing what is important to you so that I can make my tips more relevant and useful to you in the coming year.

Thank you in advance for your help with this!

Warmest,
Talane

P.S. Here is the link for the survey: SURVEY


Talane Miedaner, MCC
Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of Attraction
Get free coaching tips at Lifecoach.com

An Artist's Date

Talane's Tip of the Week, Nov 19, 2009

An Artist's Date

My husband took me to London on Monday to see Pink Martini in concert at the Apollo Hammersmith-- and they were absolutely fabulous! Best concert I've been to since the Rolling Stones in New York City. Of course, it helps that they are my favorite band.(One of the best compliments I've ever received was when a dear friend in Portland, OR introduced me to Pink Martini's first album and told me that if I were a set of songs—this would be me. I have to agree-- a bit old-fashioned, but at the same time completely new and fresh—lots of international flavor grounded in an optimistic American base—happy, fun and upbeat with a few dashes of sadness thrown in for good measure.)

The following morning we went to the Courtauld Museum, which is rated as one of the world's finest small museums with lots of fine impressionist works. Lovely and inspiring!

I left London feeling completely inspired! One of the tips in The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron that I've always enjoyed doing is going on a weekly artist's date. This is a date that you may go on by yourself that has the sole purpose of nurturing your creative side. You can go to a museum, take a walk in nature, play with paints, take a bubble bath, see a concert—anything that you feel like doing at the time. It works! Seeing great works of art and hearing great concerts does satisfy the senses at a very deep level and it feeds your creative side. It is hard not to feel inspired to do something creative afterwards!

Take yourself ( and why not grab a friend?) out for an artist's date this week!

Enjoy!

Talane

P.S. I'm deeply interested in hearing what you'd like me to write about in the coming year. To that end, I've created a survey and would very much appreciate it if you took a few minutes to complete it. It will help me to know what topics and goals are most important to you right now and what you'd like me to cover in my weekly tips and monthly newsletters. I am writing for you, after all, so it would make sense to find out what you are keen to learn more about.

Thanks in advance for your input! Here is the link to the survey to copy and paste into your wed address bar:
http://tinyurl.com/y8hd8ef


http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=ItFnsql4Fo07MNWH6r87pw_3d_3d

Scientific Fact: Your Thoughts Are Real.

Talane's November 2009 Newsletter
Scientific Fact: Your Thoughts are Real

I just finished reading Dan Brown's latest work of fiction, The Lost Symbol, and noticed that he mentions in the beginning of the book that certain buildings are in fact real and do exist—buildings that I had never heard of or noticed in spite of having lived in Washington, D.C. for eight years. But what struck me as much more interesting was that he writes about a scientist who is doing cutting edge research to prove that our thoughts are real and interact directly with the physical universe as if this were the fiction when it is already a proven, scientific fact reported in the April 5, 1999, Newsweek article, “Thinking Will Make it So” by Sharon Begley. I quoted this article in Tip 101 of my first book, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) because at the time I read this article I was absolutely blown away—scientific proof that thoughts are real! Wow! I couldn't understand why the war in Bosnia was getting the cover story when this seemed to be the really big news. Perhaps there were other earlier instances of scientific evidence proving this, but this was the first I had heard of it so it was news to me. To recap briefly, in case you don't have my book or the article on hand, Begley describes how thoughts are electrical signals that can be picked up by an electroencephalograph (EEG) to control mechanical equipment. Neurobiologist Niels Birbaumer of Germany's University of Tubingen has six patients with sound minds trapped in completely paralyzed bodies. Living with the aid of machines, these patients are wired to a “thought translation device” which amplifies their brain waves (thoughts) and enables them to select letters of the alphabet from a computer video screen and compose sentences. Here's how they did it: Tubingen's team placed electrodes behind the patient's ear and on the scalp. The electrodes are designed to detect brain waves and carry them to an EEG, which picks out a single type of wave from the many waves, much like you would tune in a radio to pick up a favorite station. After hundreds of hours of practice the patients learn to control their brain waves, by focusing on an audio tone. Once they master this they can spell out words on a video screen using only their thoughts. They were working on going wireless so I'm guessing they probably have by now, which would mean that these patients are using thoughts alone. I don't know about you, but I found this absolutely amazing and still can't figure out why this news hasn't been trumpeted around the world—our thoughts are very real indeed. So Dan Brown's book may be much closer to truth than he is letting on.
The next question is what are the implications of this fact? So what if our thoughts are real? What difference does that make? Well, for starters, now it is imperative to eliminate those negative thoughts. Our negative thoughts are our own worst enemies. One way to eliminate a negative thought is to catch yourself having one and then say, “Cancel. Cancel.” (You can do this silently so people don't think you are nuts.) Although now my husband even does it to me if I say something negative. The other way is to get to the source of the negativity and eliminate it. This is why it is so important to eliminate all those petty annoyances (Tip 1 in Coach Yourself to Success). Work through the steps of the coaching program and you will learn to attract what you want without much work—thinking will make it so. I'm still refining and simplifying this process, but most of my clients experience this as a natural by-product of the coaching program. It seems like magic to have the power to manifest what you desire just by thinking about it, but it isn't because our thoughts are real—and this isn't a secret! The steps I outline in Coach Yourself to Success are simple, practical and anyone can do them. The more you practice, the stronger and more powerful your thoughts will become—like muscle building.
Food for thought!
Talane
P.S. If anyone has read of other scientific proof that our thoughts are real, please send me the article as I'd love to learn more. In fact, I wonder if they did in fact go wireless in Germany? Does anyone know? Please email me at talane@lifecoach.com.
P.P.S. I've been working on an exciting, new interactive life coaching program to be released in January 2010

101 great tips can be found in the book Coach Yourself to Success by Talane Miedaner. Copyright © 2000 McGraw Hill
Also, exclusively from Talane Coaching Company – the Coach Yourself to Success Workbook, filled with tips, ideas and work pages. To order, visit www.lifecoach.com.

What Happens When You Are On The Path Of Attraction.

I recently unearthed an email from Thomas Leonard, one of the founders of coaching, about the realities of becoming irresistibly attractive. The first thing to understand is that while there is work to do in becoming attractive, it is a way of being, not doing. In other words, you’ll just show up being a very attractive person and won’t have to work at being attractive. It isn’t something you can force or fake. You’ll know you’ve arrived when you start having a notion of what you want and then attract it effortlessly. The more attractive you become, the more quickly and easily you’ll attract new people and better opportunities in life. If you strive, struggle, push, press, persuade, manipulate, sell or seduce you aren’t being attractive. That being said, Thomas felt “marketing shamelessly” was attractive. The key is to not only be attractive, but also get exposure. You need to make it easy for people to find you whether you are looking for the ideal relationship, the ideal career or the ideal home. Here are some realities along the path of becoming irresistibly attractive:

This isn’t a quick fix. It may take 6-12 months or more to switch from being in a chasing mode to an attracting mode. Stick with it. You’ll start to notice changes immediately though.
You’ll get pleasure and joy from adding value to others rather than scoring big or winning. It is a quieter approach to life so you may miss the drama of the highs and lows initially. Although I personally find attracting things very exciting!
Being irresistibly attractive is not a system or a technique, it is a way of life that you’ll grow into.
When you find your old ways of reaching a goal distasteful even when they may have worked extremely well for you – such as striving, chasing, selling, persuading, manipulating, etc. – you are on the way!
The people you spend time with may change. Not everyone may be willing to respect and honor your new boundaries and standards. That is okay. You can just gently let the relationship go as you grow in different directions. You may attract fewer people to you, but they’ll be great people!
Goals you may have held dear may lose their appeal. As you simplify your life and orient around your core values, you’ll find that many goals no longer apply. Initially you may feel a sense of loss as you let these old goals and wants go. You’ll be running on less adrenaline so life may not feel as exciting or rushed. You may even need to experience some boredom before you find real peace. Be willing to go through it all until the attraction kicks in.
Alternatively, you may keep the same goals, but approach them in a very different manner. You’ll strive less, enjoy the process more. Your goals may become much much bigger but you’ll find achieving them easier, more effortless, and fun. When you start attracting the really big stuff, it does feel like magic! Or a divine blessing!
You’ll go back and forth between your old way and the new way. This is normal so don’t worry about it. Better to ease into being attractive than to strive, struggle or try to acquire it (you’ve missed the point if you aren’t enjoying the process!)
Your relationship to money will shift. You’ll be much more responsible about money. It isn’t about hoping to attract money, it is about earning money in very efficient ways. If you are struggling with money issues, you’ve skipped something. Go back to the basics and work on the book, How to Get out of Debt, Stay out of Debt and Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis. Simplify your life some more. And, get your emotional and personal needs met so they don’t drive you to spend or self-medicate with money. (The Secret Laws of Attraction by Talane Miedaner).
Take your cues from the present and go with the flow instead of setting future goals. You’ll be fully present and find all the opportunities you need right in front of you!
Warmest,
Talane

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Make More Mistakes!

Talane’s Coaching Tip for the Week, October 26, 2009
Make More Mistakes


“While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, the other is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.”
—Henry C. Link
I was talking to one of my clients today and she mentioned that she was afraid of making mistakes in her business — of investing time and money into something that may not eventually pan out. I reassured her that yes, she probably will make mistakes, but that isn't a bad thing and not something to be afraid of.

Thomas Edison discovered 1,800 ways not to make a light bulb before he found the way to make it. One of Madame Curie's failures was radium. Christopher Columbus was looking for India when he discovered the new world—big mistake there! Even chocolate chip cookies were a mistake. And there is the now ubiquitous Post-it-Note™—the glue that wasn't sticky enough—another great mistake. Some of the very best inventions and discoveries in the history of the world have been mistakes or failed projects. The great thing about mistakes is that they can lead to a new and different way of thinking or doing what you never would have tried if you had succeeded. Do not fear mistakes; instead see what they can be used for or what new world is being revealed that you didn't see before.

In sales, if you know that you need 100 rejections before you'll get that one customer who says "yes", then you can get excited about every “no” because you know you now need only 98 more to reach a “yes.” If one way isn't working, think positively like Edison—he looked at each failure as learning just one more way that didn't work.

As some famous person once said, “If at first you don't succeed, find out what the losers get.”

What fears of failure have stopped you from doing what you really want?

Enjoy!
Talane

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