Talane's Tip of the Week, Nov 19, 2009
An Artist's Date
My husband took me to London on Monday to see Pink Martini in concert at the Apollo Hammersmith-- and they were absolutely fabulous! Best concert I've been to since the Rolling Stones in New York City. Of course, it helps that they are my favorite band.(One of the best compliments I've ever received was when a dear friend in Portland, OR introduced me to Pink Martini's first album and told me that if I were a set of songs—this would be me. I have to agree-- a bit old-fashioned, but at the same time completely new and fresh—lots of international flavor grounded in an optimistic American base—happy, fun and upbeat with a few dashes of sadness thrown in for good measure.)
The following morning we went to the Courtauld Museum, which is rated as one of the world's finest small museums with lots of fine impressionist works. Lovely and inspiring!
I left London feeling completely inspired! One of the tips in The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron that I've always enjoyed doing is going on a weekly artist's date. This is a date that you may go on by yourself that has the sole purpose of nurturing your creative side. You can go to a museum, take a walk in nature, play with paints, take a bubble bath, see a concert—anything that you feel like doing at the time. It works! Seeing great works of art and hearing great concerts does satisfy the senses at a very deep level and it feeds your creative side. It is hard not to feel inspired to do something creative afterwards!
Take yourself ( and why not grab a friend?) out for an artist's date this week!
Enjoy!
Talane
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Friday 20 November 2009
Thursday 19 November 2009
Scientific Fact: Your Thoughts Are Real.
Talane's November 2009 Newsletter
Scientific Fact: Your Thoughts are Real
I just finished reading Dan Brown's latest work of fiction, The Lost Symbol, and noticed that he mentions in the beginning of the book that certain buildings are in fact real and do exist—buildings that I had never heard of or noticed in spite of having lived in Washington, D.C. for eight years. But what struck me as much more interesting was that he writes about a scientist who is doing cutting edge research to prove that our thoughts are real and interact directly with the physical universe as if this were the fiction when it is already a proven, scientific fact reported in the April 5, 1999, Newsweek article, “Thinking Will Make it So” by Sharon Begley. I quoted this article in Tip 101 of my first book, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) because at the time I read this article I was absolutely blown away—scientific proof that thoughts are real! Wow! I couldn't understand why the war in Bosnia was getting the cover story when this seemed to be the really big news. Perhaps there were other earlier instances of scientific evidence proving this, but this was the first I had heard of it so it was news to me. To recap briefly, in case you don't have my book or the article on hand, Begley describes how thoughts are electrical signals that can be picked up by an electroencephalograph (EEG) to control mechanical equipment. Neurobiologist Niels Birbaumer of Germany's University of Tubingen has six patients with sound minds trapped in completely paralyzed bodies. Living with the aid of machines, these patients are wired to a “thought translation device” which amplifies their brain waves (thoughts) and enables them to select letters of the alphabet from a computer video screen and compose sentences. Here's how they did it: Tubingen's team placed electrodes behind the patient's ear and on the scalp. The electrodes are designed to detect brain waves and carry them to an EEG, which picks out a single type of wave from the many waves, much like you would tune in a radio to pick up a favorite station. After hundreds of hours of practice the patients learn to control their brain waves, by focusing on an audio tone. Once they master this they can spell out words on a video screen using only their thoughts. They were working on going wireless so I'm guessing they probably have by now, which would mean that these patients are using thoughts alone. I don't know about you, but I found this absolutely amazing and still can't figure out why this news hasn't been trumpeted around the world—our thoughts are very real indeed. So Dan Brown's book may be much closer to truth than he is letting on.
The next question is what are the implications of this fact? So what if our thoughts are real? What difference does that make? Well, for starters, now it is imperative to eliminate those negative thoughts. Our negative thoughts are our own worst enemies. One way to eliminate a negative thought is to catch yourself having one and then say, “Cancel. Cancel.” (You can do this silently so people don't think you are nuts.) Although now my husband even does it to me if I say something negative. The other way is to get to the source of the negativity and eliminate it. This is why it is so important to eliminate all those petty annoyances (Tip 1 in Coach Yourself to Success). Work through the steps of the coaching program and you will learn to attract what you want without much work—thinking will make it so. I'm still refining and simplifying this process, but most of my clients experience this as a natural by-product of the coaching program. It seems like magic to have the power to manifest what you desire just by thinking about it, but it isn't because our thoughts are real—and this isn't a secret! The steps I outline in Coach Yourself to Success are simple, practical and anyone can do them. The more you practice, the stronger and more powerful your thoughts will become—like muscle building.
Food for thought!
Talane
P.S. If anyone has read of other scientific proof that our thoughts are real, please send me the article as I'd love to learn more. In fact, I wonder if they did in fact go wireless in Germany? Does anyone know? Please email me at talane@lifecoach.com.
P.P.S. I've been working on an exciting, new interactive life coaching program to be released in January 2010
101 great tips can be found in the book Coach Yourself to Success by Talane Miedaner. Copyright © 2000 McGraw Hill
Also, exclusively from Talane Coaching Company – the Coach Yourself to Success Workbook, filled with tips, ideas and work pages. To order, visit www.lifecoach.com.
Scientific Fact: Your Thoughts are Real
I just finished reading Dan Brown's latest work of fiction, The Lost Symbol, and noticed that he mentions in the beginning of the book that certain buildings are in fact real and do exist—buildings that I had never heard of or noticed in spite of having lived in Washington, D.C. for eight years. But what struck me as much more interesting was that he writes about a scientist who is doing cutting edge research to prove that our thoughts are real and interact directly with the physical universe as if this were the fiction when it is already a proven, scientific fact reported in the April 5, 1999, Newsweek article, “Thinking Will Make it So” by Sharon Begley. I quoted this article in Tip 101 of my first book, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) because at the time I read this article I was absolutely blown away—scientific proof that thoughts are real! Wow! I couldn't understand why the war in Bosnia was getting the cover story when this seemed to be the really big news. Perhaps there were other earlier instances of scientific evidence proving this, but this was the first I had heard of it so it was news to me. To recap briefly, in case you don't have my book or the article on hand, Begley describes how thoughts are electrical signals that can be picked up by an electroencephalograph (EEG) to control mechanical equipment. Neurobiologist Niels Birbaumer of Germany's University of Tubingen has six patients with sound minds trapped in completely paralyzed bodies. Living with the aid of machines, these patients are wired to a “thought translation device” which amplifies their brain waves (thoughts) and enables them to select letters of the alphabet from a computer video screen and compose sentences. Here's how they did it: Tubingen's team placed electrodes behind the patient's ear and on the scalp. The electrodes are designed to detect brain waves and carry them to an EEG, which picks out a single type of wave from the many waves, much like you would tune in a radio to pick up a favorite station. After hundreds of hours of practice the patients learn to control their brain waves, by focusing on an audio tone. Once they master this they can spell out words on a video screen using only their thoughts. They were working on going wireless so I'm guessing they probably have by now, which would mean that these patients are using thoughts alone. I don't know about you, but I found this absolutely amazing and still can't figure out why this news hasn't been trumpeted around the world—our thoughts are very real indeed. So Dan Brown's book may be much closer to truth than he is letting on.
The next question is what are the implications of this fact? So what if our thoughts are real? What difference does that make? Well, for starters, now it is imperative to eliminate those negative thoughts. Our negative thoughts are our own worst enemies. One way to eliminate a negative thought is to catch yourself having one and then say, “Cancel. Cancel.” (You can do this silently so people don't think you are nuts.) Although now my husband even does it to me if I say something negative. The other way is to get to the source of the negativity and eliminate it. This is why it is so important to eliminate all those petty annoyances (Tip 1 in Coach Yourself to Success). Work through the steps of the coaching program and you will learn to attract what you want without much work—thinking will make it so. I'm still refining and simplifying this process, but most of my clients experience this as a natural by-product of the coaching program. It seems like magic to have the power to manifest what you desire just by thinking about it, but it isn't because our thoughts are real—and this isn't a secret! The steps I outline in Coach Yourself to Success are simple, practical and anyone can do them. The more you practice, the stronger and more powerful your thoughts will become—like muscle building.
Food for thought!
Talane
P.S. If anyone has read of other scientific proof that our thoughts are real, please send me the article as I'd love to learn more. In fact, I wonder if they did in fact go wireless in Germany? Does anyone know? Please email me at talane@lifecoach.com.
P.P.S. I've been working on an exciting, new interactive life coaching program to be released in January 2010
101 great tips can be found in the book Coach Yourself to Success by Talane Miedaner. Copyright © 2000 McGraw Hill
Also, exclusively from Talane Coaching Company – the Coach Yourself to Success Workbook, filled with tips, ideas and work pages. To order, visit www.lifecoach.com.
Thursday 5 November 2009
What Happens When You Are On The Path Of Attraction.
I recently unearthed an email from Thomas Leonard, one of the founders of coaching, about the realities of becoming irresistibly attractive. The first thing to understand is that while there is work to do in becoming attractive, it is a way of being, not doing. In other words, you’ll just show up being a very attractive person and won’t have to work at being attractive. It isn’t something you can force or fake. You’ll know you’ve arrived when you start having a notion of what you want and then attract it effortlessly. The more attractive you become, the more quickly and easily you’ll attract new people and better opportunities in life. If you strive, struggle, push, press, persuade, manipulate, sell or seduce you aren’t being attractive. That being said, Thomas felt “marketing shamelessly” was attractive. The key is to not only be attractive, but also get exposure. You need to make it easy for people to find you whether you are looking for the ideal relationship, the ideal career or the ideal home. Here are some realities along the path of becoming irresistibly attractive:
This isn’t a quick fix. It may take 6-12 months or more to switch from being in a chasing mode to an attracting mode. Stick with it. You’ll start to notice changes immediately though.
You’ll get pleasure and joy from adding value to others rather than scoring big or winning. It is a quieter approach to life so you may miss the drama of the highs and lows initially. Although I personally find attracting things very exciting!
Being irresistibly attractive is not a system or a technique, it is a way of life that you’ll grow into.
When you find your old ways of reaching a goal distasteful even when they may have worked extremely well for you – such as striving, chasing, selling, persuading, manipulating, etc. – you are on the way!
The people you spend time with may change. Not everyone may be willing to respect and honor your new boundaries and standards. That is okay. You can just gently let the relationship go as you grow in different directions. You may attract fewer people to you, but they’ll be great people!
Goals you may have held dear may lose their appeal. As you simplify your life and orient around your core values, you’ll find that many goals no longer apply. Initially you may feel a sense of loss as you let these old goals and wants go. You’ll be running on less adrenaline so life may not feel as exciting or rushed. You may even need to experience some boredom before you find real peace. Be willing to go through it all until the attraction kicks in.
Alternatively, you may keep the same goals, but approach them in a very different manner. You’ll strive less, enjoy the process more. Your goals may become much much bigger but you’ll find achieving them easier, more effortless, and fun. When you start attracting the really big stuff, it does feel like magic! Or a divine blessing!
You’ll go back and forth between your old way and the new way. This is normal so don’t worry about it. Better to ease into being attractive than to strive, struggle or try to acquire it (you’ve missed the point if you aren’t enjoying the process!)
Your relationship to money will shift. You’ll be much more responsible about money. It isn’t about hoping to attract money, it is about earning money in very efficient ways. If you are struggling with money issues, you’ve skipped something. Go back to the basics and work on the book, How to Get out of Debt, Stay out of Debt and Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis. Simplify your life some more. And, get your emotional and personal needs met so they don’t drive you to spend or self-medicate with money. (The Secret Laws of Attraction by Talane Miedaner).
Take your cues from the present and go with the flow instead of setting future goals. You’ll be fully present and find all the opportunities you need right in front of you!
Warmest,
Talane
Copyright © 2008 by Talane LLC. All rights reserved.
This isn’t a quick fix. It may take 6-12 months or more to switch from being in a chasing mode to an attracting mode. Stick with it. You’ll start to notice changes immediately though.
You’ll get pleasure and joy from adding value to others rather than scoring big or winning. It is a quieter approach to life so you may miss the drama of the highs and lows initially. Although I personally find attracting things very exciting!
Being irresistibly attractive is not a system or a technique, it is a way of life that you’ll grow into.
When you find your old ways of reaching a goal distasteful even when they may have worked extremely well for you – such as striving, chasing, selling, persuading, manipulating, etc. – you are on the way!
The people you spend time with may change. Not everyone may be willing to respect and honor your new boundaries and standards. That is okay. You can just gently let the relationship go as you grow in different directions. You may attract fewer people to you, but they’ll be great people!
Goals you may have held dear may lose their appeal. As you simplify your life and orient around your core values, you’ll find that many goals no longer apply. Initially you may feel a sense of loss as you let these old goals and wants go. You’ll be running on less adrenaline so life may not feel as exciting or rushed. You may even need to experience some boredom before you find real peace. Be willing to go through it all until the attraction kicks in.
Alternatively, you may keep the same goals, but approach them in a very different manner. You’ll strive less, enjoy the process more. Your goals may become much much bigger but you’ll find achieving them easier, more effortless, and fun. When you start attracting the really big stuff, it does feel like magic! Or a divine blessing!
You’ll go back and forth between your old way and the new way. This is normal so don’t worry about it. Better to ease into being attractive than to strive, struggle or try to acquire it (you’ve missed the point if you aren’t enjoying the process!)
Your relationship to money will shift. You’ll be much more responsible about money. It isn’t about hoping to attract money, it is about earning money in very efficient ways. If you are struggling with money issues, you’ve skipped something. Go back to the basics and work on the book, How to Get out of Debt, Stay out of Debt and Live Prosperously by Jerrold Mundis. Simplify your life some more. And, get your emotional and personal needs met so they don’t drive you to spend or self-medicate with money. (The Secret Laws of Attraction by Talane Miedaner).
Take your cues from the present and go with the flow instead of setting future goals. You’ll be fully present and find all the opportunities you need right in front of you!
Warmest,
Talane
Copyright © 2008 by Talane LLC. All rights reserved.
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