More Simple Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life

Talane’s Coaching Tip for the Week

More Simple Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life 

If you are still struggling to sketch out an ideal life, start by creating the ideal way to start and end each day. How would you like to wake up in the morning? What bedtime routine would be ideal for you? You may not have as much control during the day while in a job, but you can start moving one step closer to the ideal life by making your mornings and evenings ideal. One client envisioned an ideal morning of having freshly made coffee and hot blueberry muffins on her deck overlooking the trees in her back yard while writing in her journal. She realized this was something she didn't have to wait to implement.

Right now, my ideal morning starts when my two little girls climb into bed at 6:30 a.m. for a snuggle and then we go down to make pancakes for breakfast before walking to school. I used to write in my journal in the morning before having children, but now it is easier to do that in the evenings before I go to bed and use the journal to recap the events of the day after a nice long soak in the tub.

What is your ideal morning and evening? Start with one small change in the right direction, even if that is just to make a batch of blueberry muffins and freeze them so you can take one with you to work, that will take you one step closer to living your ideal life.

Enjoy!
Talane

  

Talane Miedaner, MCC

Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of Attraction
Get free coaching tips at LifeCoach.com 

Copyright © 2010 by Talane LLC. All rights reserved.

---

Coach Yourself to Success Online

Special Introductory Offer - $1 for first 30 days  ($19.95 regular price after 30 days)

For years I've had a vision of being able to provide affordable coaching for everyone who wants it. I'm delighted to announce that this vision is now a reality –  LifeCoach.com is full of resources, free tips, quizzes, success stories, coaching programs, phone classes and best of all – a brand new, life-changing, 52-week coaching program, Coach Yourself to Success Online. Now you too can experience the benefits of life coaching at a very affordable fee. Check it out and let me know what you think

There is No Place to Get To and Yet There Is

Talane’s Coaching Tip for the Week


There is No Place to Get To and Yet There Is


You can give up striving because there is no place to get to. This is it. And the reason I can say that now with some authority is because I have “arrived” and didn't even realize it over the past three and a half years and might never have realized it except that I happened upon the sketch I had drawn up of my ideal life that must be over 10 years old. If you aren't enjoying the journey to get wherever you think you need to be, then you have really missed the boat and need to seriously consider a very different journey. Some things we sign up for just aren't as glamorous in real life as they are in an ideal life, such as that horse ranch that might look good on paper, but may not be so enchanting when you discover just how much work those horses require.



Now, that being said, there is a point in life at which you have put in place foundations that make a huge difference. This is the point at which you may feel secure, safe or you breathe a sigh of relief. For many people this comes when they have bought their first home or apartment and feel that they have a base that they can now call home. For some it is having 1 to 2 years worth of savings in reserve so they know they can weather most misfortunes that might blow their way. For others it might be when they find the right partner to share life's ups and downs with. In the coaching work, we help all of our clients build a strong personal foundation for their life which includes: having a financial reserve to cushion the bumps in life; having plenty of love from friends and family; completing the past so that you are free to create the future you want; getting rid of the petty annoyances in your life; getting past struggle and out of survival mode; getting your personal and emotional needs met so they no longer run you; discovering your top four values and orienting your life around them. This creates a rock solid foundation from which you can really enjoy life fully and is well worth working on. It might take a year or two to create, but is a worthy goal in and of itself simply because of the peace and strength having such a foundation will give you.





Enjoy!

Talane





P.S. Not sure where to start? Join our wonderful community at LifeCoach.com and start creating your own ideal life. Only $1.00 for 30 days of Coach Yourself to Success Online.

Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life

Talane’s Coaching Tip for the Week, October 11, 2010


Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life







I was just working with one client who was struggling with the question, “What do you want?” She spent a few weeks in inquiry and even polled her friends and family and in the end was no clearer than when she started. So we decided to try a different strategy. Instead of starting with a blank page and sketching an ideal life, let's start with the life she has and just work on tweaking and perfecting it a bit. After all, she had many elements that were in fact already ideal – a loving husband, a new puppy, a new home, but some things needed to change. Instead of working 90 hours a week, what would happen if you got your work done efficiently and left at 6 p.m. to be home for dinner? How about swapping the rushed lunch in front of the desk for a 30 minute bike ride at the gym?



Most of us don't need to start over with a whole new plan. A little bit of refining and a few adjustments may be all that is required to turn a less than ideal life into an ideal one. What fine-tuning could you do this week to take your life one step closer to the ideal?



Enjoy!

Talane



P.S. Not sure where to start? Join our wonderful community at LifeCoach.com and start creating your own ideal life. Only $1.00 for 30 days of Coach Yourself to Success Online.













Talane Miedaner, MCC



Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of Attraction

Get free coaching tips at LifeCoach.com

Copyright © 2010 by Talane LLC. All rights reserved.

More On Having Your Ideal Life!

Talane’s Coaching Tip for the Week, September 27, 2010



More on Having Your Ideal Life



Last week I mentioned that I had discovered that I was actually living my ideal life and I said I'd share with you another epiphany that I had. You may by wondering, “Geez, how could she have missed the fact that she had her ideal life? Isn't it obvious when you achieve it?” I had thought it would be, but if I hadn't written it down, I might have missed the fact that I had in fact “made it.” How is that possible? Well, when I sketched out my ideal life I was imaging all the ideal elements of it – cuddling two little kids in bed for example, but not the mad scramble to get the kids off to school and arriving late because of a lost shoe that defied all attempts to be found. Or the 2 a.m. wake ups when my three year old has had a bad dream, which wouldn't be so bad except that after I settle her back down I'm wide awake for hours after and end up slogging through the next day. So yes, while I have my ideal life, it is still a very real life with kids who get sick and break their arms and drain pipes that get clogged, etc. So there is a whole lot of maintenance even though I have lots of extra help – the gardener, the au pair, the house cleaner.



The point here is that if you don't write down your ideal life, you may miss the fact that you've actually achieved it and that would be a real shame.



Now, that wasn't actually the second epiphany although it could be. After seeing that I had achieved my vision and feeling rather jubilant for a few minutes my next thought was, “I've achieved this so now I need a whole new vision for a new ideal life! What should I create now?” I suppose that is the coach in me, thinking a new set of goals is now required. But then I realized, wait a minute. I LIKE my life and I don't want to get rid of the kids or my husband or the beach house or my international career or stop writing books. In fact, there wasn't anything I wanted take off my already rather full plate. If anything, to really perfect my life all I needed to do was add in a few hobbies. Instead of tossing my ideal life and picking a brand new one, it is time to stop striving and start enjoying what I've created. What a concept. I felt this amazing sense of peace and almost disbelief. I don't have to strive anymore? It feels a bit odd because for years I've been striving, striving, striving. Now that doesn't mean I won't ever write another book again, but I don't have to. It is a subtle, but wonderful difference. I can simply enjoy my life, my family and friends and my career. This is it! One wise coach had told me early on – you don't start really living until you stop striving. Now here is the bad news – I could have stopped striving years ago as I've had my ideal life for quite a few years now and didn't even realize it! Ha!



Now if this doesn't inspire you to take a few minutes to sketch out an ideal life right now, what will? You may be living your ideal life and not even be aware of that fact simply because you are caught up in the daily maintenance. Stop striving, start living! And the real secret is that you can do that right now, just the way your life is because the present really is perfect.







Enjoy!



Talane





P.S. Not sure where to start? Join our wonderful community at LifeCoach.com and start creating your own ideal life. Only $1.00 for 30 days of Coach Yourself to Success Online.













Talane Miedaner, MCC



Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of Attraction

Get free coaching tips at LifeCoach.com

Copyright © 2010 by Talane LLC. All rights reserved.