Talane’s Coaching Tip for the Week
Another Simple Strategy for Creating an Ideal Life
As you can see, I’m on a roll here and if you still haven’t jotted down an ideal day or made a collage with the elements of your ideal life, what are you waiting for? It is your life after all, you’ve made it what it is today and if you don’t like it you can change it.
Here is another way to start living your ideal life today. Imagine that you just won the lottery and had billions – you can now buy everything that you wanted, do what you want, quit that job, lie on a beach and vegetate until the end of your life. But imagine you’ve done all this and it is now year two on the beach, you are very tan, but are now also getting a bit bored. You think to yourself, “What would be fun, interesting, or exciting to do?” Whatever you come up with is one of your values. Do you want to travel, play, have fun, lead and inspire people, explore, teach, manage, plan, create, invent, learn, design? Whatever you come up with is one of your core values – what is most important to you.
And this is the secret to winning the lottery in life without even buying a ticket. If you won the lottery, you’d be instantly freed up to do what you really want to do. But in truth, you can do this anyway. It may take a bit of restructuring to live your ideal life, but regardless, you can start today by identifying one of your core values and then creating a project that would fulfil that value. That might mean booking a vacation to a foreign country, taking an adult education class to learn something new and interesting, writing a screenplay, starting a band, taking scuba diving lessons, moving to a different city or country, finding more fulfilling work, etc.. There is something that you could do today that would allow you to live one of your values. And the more closely your life and work is in alignment with your top values, the happier and more fulfilled you will be. Better than winning the lottery actually as you’ll still have your friends!
Enjoy!
Talane
P.S. If you aren’t sure what your top four values are, you can find out by doing the exercises in my book Coach Yourself to a New Career or join our fun online community at LifeCoach.com!
Talane Miedaner, MCC
Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of Attraction
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Tuesday 16 November 2010
The Art of Emotional Detachment
Talane’s November 2010 Newsletter
The Art of Emotional Detachment
There is a Taoist principle that if you detach from the results you are much more likely to do well. When we try too hard, push or force to get something or achieve a result, it can repel the very thing or person you most want. Anxiety, tension and pressure lead to poor performance, whether in business or sports. The key is to develop a love of what you are doing without the emotional attachment to the results. Easier said than done when you want something so badly you can taste it!
My own personal take on this ancient philosophy is to add a positive twist to it. My approach to life is that “It is all good, even the bad stuff.” By anticipating that something good will come out of something that appears “bad” I believe I am setting myself up to attract something positive. Or, at the very least I'll think about how a negative event or situation can be turned into a positive. (Okay, so if I'm laid up in bed sick, this must be an opportunity to reflect on life, come up with a new book idea, etc.)
Think about it. Many mistakes have gone on to become huge successes. The chocolate chip cookie was a mistake and what a lovely one! The Post-it™ note was a failed glue that didn't quite stick. Would the old man have seen the potential Post-it™ note success if he had only remained neutral? It may be the surest way to prevent disappointment, but what if you actively engage in turning a negative into a positive? The person who made the failed glue must have had the thought “Hmm... okay, so it isn't really that sticky, but how could that be useful?”
What if we embraced our mistakes and worst problems and dug around to find out how they might be turned into something even better?
Enjoy!
Talane
Talane Miedaner, MCC
Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of AttractionThe Art of Emotional Detachment
There is a Taoist principle that if you detach from the results you are much more likely to do well. When we try too hard, push or force to get something or achieve a result, it can repel the very thing or person you most want. Anxiety, tension and pressure lead to poor performance, whether in business or sports. The key is to develop a love of what you are doing without the emotional attachment to the results. Easier said than done when you want something so badly you can taste it!
One way to reduce our attachment is to stop judging what is happening. What if it just is what is and isn't good or bad? A classic Taoist story demonstrates this beautifully:
A very old Chinese man and his young son lived during a period of much civil strife. They were considered rich by the villagers because they owned a horse. One morning, the son awoke to find his horse had run away. Running to his father, he informed him of this tragedy, saying this was the worst thing that could have happened. His father, in all his wisdom, replied, "Is that so? How do you know what it means?" The next day, as the boy was working in the barn, he heard the sound of horses galloping in the distance. When he looked up he saw his horse leading a herd of wild ponies to him. Seeing this, he ran to the house shouting, "The horse has come back leading a herd. This is the greatest thing that's ever happened!" In all his wisdom, the old man replied once again: "Is that so? How do you know what it means?" That afternoon, the boy decided to tame one of the ponies. As he proudly sat atop the new-found gift, the horse bucked, thro wing the boy to the ground causing a broken collarbone and a fractured arm. As he was placed in his bed by his father, he said, "All those horses coming – that's the worst thing that could have happened." Once again, the old man spoke: "Is that so? How do you know what it means?" The next day, father and son were abruptly awakened by the sound of militia knocking on their door. They were here to take the boy to fight in the civil war. The old man said, "There he is, take him." The captain took one look and said, "He's useless to us," and left. The boy said, "This is the best luck I've ever had." And the old man, in his wisdom replied, "Is that so? How do you know what it means?”*
My own personal take on this ancient philosophy is to add a positive twist to it. My approach to life is that “It is all good, even the bad stuff.” By anticipating that something good will come out of something that appears “bad” I believe I am setting myself up to attract something positive. Or, at the very least I'll think about how a negative event or situation can be turned into a positive. (Okay, so if I'm laid up in bed sick, this must be an opportunity to reflect on life, come up with a new book idea, etc.)
Think about it. Many mistakes have gone on to become huge successes. The chocolate chip cookie was a mistake and what a lovely one! The Post-it™ note was a failed glue that didn't quite stick. Would the old man have seen the potential Post-it™ note success if he had only remained neutral? It may be the surest way to prevent disappointment, but what if you actively engage in turning a negative into a positive? The person who made the failed glue must have had the thought “Hmm... okay, so it isn't really that sticky, but how could that be useful?”
What if we embraced our mistakes and worst problems and dug around to find out how they might be turned into something even better?
Enjoy!
Talane
* Story excerpted from Thinking Body, Dancing Mind by Chungliang Al Huang and Jerry Lynch.
.. Talane Miedaner, MCC
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Saturday 6 November 2010
Simple Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life...continued
Talane’s Tip for the Week
Simple Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life . . .continued
Simple Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life . . .continued
I just got back from a week soaking up the glorious sunshine and eating grilled octopus and roasted aubergine in Greece with my husband and two girls. We booked this holiday ages ago as we've finally learned that if we don't travel when the kids have a school holiday, we won't travel. Since we love traveling and this is one of the values we share as a couple, it makes sense to orient our life and work around the school vacations. Sounds simple, but how many of you book your holidays for the year in advance? First, it is often a lot cheaper and second, you will schedule in regular breaks throughout the year. If we hadn't booked this trip, we would have worked through it and been exhausted little pups by the time the Christmas holidays came around. And the schools here in the UK are quite sensible in that they have a week or two break every 6 or 7 weeks. This no doubt prevents burnout in the children as well.
The point of all this is that you need to find out what your top values are (mine are travel, adventure, lead and inspire and beauty) and then orient your life and work around them. This ensures that even if you never have your “ideal” life, you will certainly have a rich and fulfilling life- -and what could be more ideal than that?
Enjoy!
Talane
P.S. If you aren't sure what your top four values are, you can find out by doing the exercises in my book Coach Yourself to a New Career or join our fun online community at LifeCoach.com!
Talane Miedaner, MCC
Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of Attraction
Get free coaching tips at LifeCoach.com
Copyright © 2010 by Talane LLC. All rights reserved.
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Simple Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life . . .continued
Simple Strategies for Creating an Ideal Life . . .continued
I just got back from a week soaking up the glorious sunshine and eating grilled octopus and roasted aubergine in Greece with my husband and two girls. We booked this holiday ages ago as we've finally learned that if we don't travel when the kids have a school holiday, we won't travel. Since we love traveling and this is one of the values we share as a couple, it makes sense to orient our life and work around the school vacations. Sounds simple, but how many of you book your holidays for the year in advance? First, it is often a lot cheaper and second, you will schedule in regular breaks throughout the year. If we hadn't booked this trip, we would have worked through it and been exhausted little pups by the time the Christmas holidays came around. And the schools here in the UK are quite sensible in that they have a week or two break every 6 or 7 weeks. This no doubt prevents burnout in the children as well.
The point of all this is that you need to find out what your top values are (mine are travel, adventure, lead and inspire and beauty) and then orient your life and work around them. This ensures that even if you never have your “ideal” life, you will certainly have a rich and fulfilling life- -and what could be more ideal than that?
Enjoy!
Talane
P.S. If you aren't sure what your top four values are, you can find out by doing the exercises in my book Coach Yourself to a New Career or join our fun online community at LifeCoach.com!
Talane Miedaner, MCC
Author of the international best seller, Coach Yourself to Success (McGraw-Hill, Jan 2000) and The Secret Laws of Attraction
Get free coaching tips at LifeCoach.com
Copyright © 2010 by Talane LLC. All rights reserved.
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